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82% don't give up their seat on the bus or train to someone who needs it more

Long gone are the days when Britons knew their neighbours by name. Now 52% of workers don't even offer to make a cup of tea for a colleague, a recent survey of the nation's local community and workplace habits carried out by healthcare provider Simplyhealth has revealed.

Almost half of people in Britain only know a maximum of three neighbours by name. Tellingly, it's the 'over 55s' that can be bothered to get to know their neighbours with the majority (57%) on first name terms with at least five of their neighbours, whereas almost two-thirds of 'under 35s' know only two.

According to Simplyhealth's Bothered Britain survey of more than 1,000 UK adults, the main causes of people not bothering are lack of time and stress at work. However, despite the claim of "no time", over half the nation (56%) still manages to watch over 15 hours of television a week, instead of bothering to offer up an act of kindness.

The survey also revealed that 82% don't give up their seat on the bus or train to someone who needs it more, while 61% admitted to never having volunteered for a charity. Some 86% don't ever offer to carry someone else's bags.

In fact, it seems that it now takes moments of extreme adversity to encourage any active acts of botheredness at all, as 92% of Britons agree that it takes a crisis for people to show they care about one another.

Some 82% agree that the recent freezing weather conditions brought about a greater sense of community spirit - which now appears to have melted along with the snow.

This could be a reflection of modern life, with higher work expectations and frantic family lifestyles causing higher levels of stress and fatigue. However, carrying out good deeds for others can in fact have a positive impact on a person's health, as well as the surrounding community.

Medical expert Dr. Christian Jessen agrees: "We all know that helping others is of benefit to them, but many people don't realise that getting active to help others can also improve your mental and physical wellbeing. Simple activities like walking the neighbour's dog or helping in the garden help to burn calories and improve general fitness, leading to a healthier, happier nation."

Jamie Wilson, spokesperson for Simplyhealth, says: "Committing just half an hour a month to helping someone else can make a real difference to your life as well as theirs. If everyone in the UK aimed to do just one act of 'botheredness' every month, it would make a real difference to the nation's overall wellbeing."


Research shows that men are 3 times more likely than women to think about sex

Whilst 28% of men think about sex every 5 minutes, only 8% of women have such active imaginations, research by the free online dating website has revealed.

An additional 28% of men admitted to sexual thoughts every hour compared to just 13% of women; this means not only are men 3 times more likely than women to think about sex every 5 minutes, but twice as likely to think about it every hour.

However, whilst 92% of men think about sex on a daily basis, a third of the women surveyed thought about sex far less often. 1 in 4 women think about sex once a week whilst only 3 in 50 men have such idle minds. Furthermore, 1 in 10 women succumb to temptation just once a month compared to 1 in 50 men.

In addition, according to the statistics, as people age, thoughts of a sexual nature decrease. People aged 25-30 have the most active minds with 25% of members in that age group admitting to sexual thoughts every 5 minutes, whilst 43% of those aged 61+ thought about sex every few hours.

They want a man who is at least 10 years younger and are going to great lengths in order to do so

More than one third (37%) of Australian women over the age of 40 are looking to date a man at least 10 years younger than them and they’re going to great lengths in order to do so, a recent survey of has revealed.

The survey of 1,321 women from the Victorian Cosmetic Institute reveals the procedures these women are willing to undergo in order to date younger men. The most popular cosmetic procedure for more than a third (34%) of those over the age of 40 is liposuction treatments , followed by face lifts for 17% of respondents and laser hair removal (16%).

“Rather than lipo-suction or a face lift, women over 40 are better off focusing on sagging elbows and sun spots if they want to bag a younger man,” leading cosmetic surgeon Dr. Terri Labberton says.

Women between the ages of 30 and 50 represent 80% of the clientele at the Victorian Cosmetic Institute and according to Dr. Labberton, many seek consultation for a new look following a divorce or break up. She says: “It’s amazing how many ‘would-be’ Cougars visit the surgery, looking to take years off themselves in order to attract a younger model. Many say they still feel like they’re in their 20s, so want a body and a man to reflect that feeling.”

According to the findings, the tummy is the most hated part of the body for over one in two women over the age of 40 (54%), followed by thighs (14%), buttocks (7%) and breasts (7%).

A nurse who admits to being 48 years of age, turned to cosmetic surgery treatments  in order to attract and date men in their 30s. Her biggest concern was her elbows, she says: “I know I look at least half my age, and people tell me so all the time. I was worried about the tell tale signs that good diet and lucky genes can’t hide. That’s why I got my elbows lasered to tighten up the skin and disguise any clues to my real age”

Miss England not surprised that people are turning to the uniformed services for re-assurance while looking for love

Do all the nice girls still love a sailor these days, or do those tight-fitting bell bottoms just wash over them?

Is the naughty nurse still every man’s fantasy, or does the reality of sensible shoes and hospital shifts leave guys feeling a bit queasy?

At the start of the 21st century, with new ideas about individualism and authority, what does the uniform mean to us today? And for those looking for love, is it still the powerful pulling tool it once was, or does it do more harm than good?

There was a time when uniform meant one thing to most Average Joes – sexy. It was etched on the nation’s collective dirty-mind as the ultimate sexy look – think of a saucy Babs Windsor as Nurse Sandra May in “Carry on Doctor” or hunky Richard Chamberlain as dreamy Dr Kildare.

New research from the uniformed-services dating specialists Uniform Dating, ( suggests the lure of a regulation issue shoe and a shiny set of buttons is still as strong today as it ever was, but perhaps not for the reasons we might immediately think. is a site designed specifically for the uniformed services and anyone hoping to date a person in uniform. Researchers asked over 1000 of its users, aged 18 to 60+, about what uniforms meant to them, and while the results reveal that the uniform is still seen as deeply attractive, notions of dependability, professionalism and security were stronger and more appealing to today’s singletons than the cheesier, ‘saucy’ images of old.

When asked what they thought about uniforms in the workplace, the most popular answer was ‘practical’ (595 votes) while most people said the thing they’d like best about a partner who wore a uniform would be ‘secure job’ (510 votes), and the phrase that sprang to mind for most people when they saw someone in a uniform was ‘professional’ (601). ‘Sex bomb’ came in second, followed by ‘safe and secure’ and the more overtly sexual term ‘dominatrix’ came last with just 32 votes.

Interestingly, those who wore a uniform, or wanted to wear one, felt wearing it made them more ‘mysterious’ but very few (57) thought it would make more people try to chat them up, suggesting the allure of a uniform lies in something much deeper than pure sex-appeal.

Uniform Dating spokeswoman and current Miss England Katrina Hodge is also a lance corporal in the Adjutant General Corps and has received a commendation for bravery on a tour of duty in Iraq.

She said it was no surprise to her that people were turning to the uniformed services for re-assurance while looking for love.

She said: “Looking for The One can be a time of uncertainty anyway, but in today’s uncertain world it’s a minefield! As a soldier I work with heroes and heroines every day and it’s no surprise to me that people are attracted to the security and bravery their uniforms represent. Wearing a uniform isn’t about getting your kit off anymore, it’s about keeping it on and wondering what’s underneath.”

Despite having Miss Hodge as a poster girl, the Army came second to the Police force as the most popular uniform, perhaps showing a preference for responsibility and control over danger. Least popular were the prison service uniforms and security guards.

For men, the allure of the caring but sexy nurse was still strong with the largest proportion of men in the 35-50 age group preferring the nurses’ uniform. “Their uniforms make you feel like you’re ill and you’re always wondering if they’re wearing stockings or tights” explained one excited male respondent.

And women of all ages continue to swoon at the firefighter’s uniform, mostly because they want to be rescued. “Every girl dreams of being rescued by a hunky fireman” summed up the general feeling.

Richard Gere in “An Officer and a Gentleman” fought it out with Tom Cruise in “Top Gun” for the number one man in a uniform, (unsurprisingly, Gere was most popular with 35s upwards) while morally-dubious Holby City nurse Faye Morton, played by 42 –year-old Patsy Kensit, was consistently the uniform-wearer of choice for guys in all age categories, proving men aren’t fussy about age when it comes in a nurse’s outfit!

Clare Young, Marketing Manager at Uniform Dating, added: “Here at Uniform Dating we’ve always understood the very special men and women who wear a uniform to work but this survey has helped us see how people’s perceptions of the uniform have changed and continue to evolve. What never changes is that the brave men and women of the uniformed services will always be heroes.”

Has the condom split? THT Guide shows how you may stop HIV before infection

HIV and sexual health charity Terrence Higgins Trust (THT) has launched a new guide for African communities with information on post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP). 

PEP is a month long course of treatment that may prevent HIV infection even after the virus has entered the body.

After HIV gets into someone’s bloodstream, it can take anywhere between a few hours and a few days before it infects them permanently. If someone acts within that short time, he or she may be able to stop HIV before the infection takes hold by taking a course of PEP. The faster it’s taken after someone has put themselves at risk, the more likely it will work.

Sarah, an African woman living in London, had to take PEP after the condom she was using split: “Because my husband is HIV positive, we both knew about PEP and that it could stop me getting infected. We also knew we had to act fast and get PEP as quickly as possible. PEP meant taking 12 pills a day for 28 days, which isn’t easy. But I never thought of stopping. It’s worth it.”

The new guide aims to reach more Africans with the facts. In the UK, African communities are the group at highest risk of contracting HIV; the most recent figures from 2007 show Africans represented around 40% of all new HIV diagnoses.

Marc Thompson, Deputy Head of Health Promotion at THT, says: “It is essential we raise awareness of PEP among African communities. It’s also important that people act fast if they’ve put themselves at risk. You can be prescribed PEP anywhere up to 72 hours after exposure to HIV but the sooner you can take it, the better.”

The PEP guide has been funded by the Pan-London HIV Prevention Programme to tackle high rates of HIV among Africans.

It is available free of charge from African community organisations, sexual health clinics and Terrence Higgins Trust service centres in London.



Survey: Men buy organic for special occasions and to give their wives and girlfriends a treat

A new way of winning a girl’s heart is by buying her organic for a special romantic dinner, a new survey in the UK has revealed.

As women become more and more health conscious, guys have figured out that it is the best way to demonstrate to them that they too are on the same wavelength and want to help them take care of themselves.

More and more men are now shopping around to snap up organic food and drink for special occasions when they want to impress their wives and girlfriends, the survey revealed.

“It is a very definite trend which has emerged all over the country – men always think organic when they want to impress the ladies with their cooking and give them a very special treat,” said Huw Bowles, Chair of the Organic Trade Board, which ran the survey throughout the UK and interviewed over 3,000 shoppers.

Men are cooking for their partners with the best possible quality ingredients without having to resort to the expense of a slap up meal in a restaurant – and because they know it goes down better with the girls.

The Organic Trade Board spokesman pointed out “This is a trend which our survey discovered was happening all over the country, not just the affluent South East. Whether it is the North East, the Midlands or in deepest Wales we consistently kept coming up with this same finding.

“Men have discovered it’s as good a way to a girl’s heart as a bouquet of flowers. It’s the new sign of our times…” 

Consumer insight guru, Mark Dickens, of Wanda Retail Strategy, explained: “Men are fiercely conscious in their shopping habits of creating the right impression and this penchant for organic to woo the girls is a reflection of the times in which we now live. They have cottoned on how health conscious females have become and how much it matters to them to take care of their diet and general well being.

“What better way to fulfil all these lifestyle requirements than to turn to organic food, with its keynote messages of goodness and purity, to convince the girls that they matter to their men. It’s a very savvy piece of male consumerism!”

The survey, which revealed that over 80% of all Britons now buy organic and 50% of these buyers are in the lower income C2, D and E brackets, showed that men almost always buy organic for special occasions and to give their wives and girlfriends a treat.


Wood: "Attractions develop very easily between men and women who see each other often"

If your friend is too friendly to your partner, you may have a reason to become suspicious. This is because a new poll conducted by the UK’s top internet dating company shows that of 5500 men who admitted to being unfaithful, a staggering 46.9% admitted their fling was with a friend’s wife or girlfriend.

The research was undertaken by between 5th and 14th February, and 5512 men looking for discreet relationships were asked three questions: Have you ever had a relationship with your friend’s wife or partner? Did you get caught? Did you confess?

Out of the 46.9% who admitted having had a relationship with their friend’s wife or partner, only 7.84% were ever caught. This means that 92.16% of men who have relationships with their friends’ wives or partners are never caught.

And the fact that they are never caught seems to make them convinced that it is needless to confess doing such a thing with a friend’s wife or partner. In fact when asked if they confessed having a fling with a friend's wife or girlfriend, 91.75% said no.

“It’s a remarkable figure and well above what we would have thought. Attractions develop very easily between men and women who see each other often, in the same circles. And it is often easier to be together without arousing any suspicions,” Sean Wood, Marketing Manager for benaughty said.

By Stephen Ogongo