A woman will only want to be with a man who initially fires up her desire, and she will only stay with him if he can keep that fire burning, dating expert Carlos Xuma says in a new report.
“Friends first” is a myth, Mr. Xuma says. “Seduction isn’t bad or wrong. It’s absolutely necessary,” he adds.
No matter what today’s pop culture and media tell men about seduction, the reality is that women don’t want men who are touchy-feely and sensitive. They want men who understand women, but who still behave like men, Mr. Xuma says.
Most men have seen this scenario: A guy talking with a beautiful woman. She's laughing away at his jokes, flipping her hair back, and touching his arm as if she's known him forever, but in reality she's only just met him. The worst part is that he's not even good looking! And his suit looks like he just shot his couch. Eventually, the hot babe leaves the bar with him.
“Most men see this and wonder: What could this guy possibly have or know that allows him to be brave enough to jump in and attract gorgeous women successfully?” Mr. Xuma asks.
According to the dating expert, that man has three traits that are critical to any flirt with women technique: The three S’s (self confidence, sense of humour and self control), he says.
“These traits combined create a powerful seduction technique that will put a man over the top with any woman he desires,” Mr. Xuma says in his new report titled “Secrets of attracting women”.
He emphasizes that good looks are not necessary. “In fact, they will limit men, since many women have shields up to protect them from the ‘players.’”
In his new report, Mr. Xuma also reveals another strategy that he is convinced is guaranteed to help men find success with women. “A woman will feel attracted to men who tease and challenge her,” he says.
